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I go to the "problem" meeting a couple of times a week.  People still pet Donovan as I say, "No, no, no."  Then they stop and say, "Sorry."  I explain to them as best I can.

We  go to an early morning women's meeting where he is the darling, like he used to be at the "problem" meeting.  I keep him mostly by me after he says hello to a couple of women.  

I still haven't taken the hour bus ride to the other meeting that I can get to.  In another couple of days it won't matter because I won't have a bus pass for two months.  I simply don't have the money.  My sober anniversary and money for a bus pass happen the same day.  

I am not so nervous and excited about this birthday as I was about last year's.  I will be a teenager.  I mostly just want a big, scrumptious cake.  Time will tell.

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Comment by Ky G on October 7, 2011 at 9:36am

PLease let me know how you are doing and if you have found a meeting that accepts you and your SD. I am cheering for you both from afar. Want to hear something wonderful...my SD has a bais towards males since her was drop kicked severly in Home Depot/resulting in a law suit and has had several negative encounters with homeless males who eventually approach cracked out or drunk where once we knew them as friends. My dog no longer like males and wouldnt let them near me after these encounters. SInce he been attending all meeting w/me at a different spot..his fear and protectiveness over males has changed to ease and friendliness. Big change for him. So now when we walk in they say.."hey Bingo must need a meeting". I am blessed to have some understanding here but belive me i had to perservere and try not to raise my own hackles. I DO NOT let folks reach down to pet him still and reserve his friendships to outside the meeting hall after checking his reaction. then i simply say"Bingo, do you want to say Hi?". So far so good. but please let us know how you are doing. it has been a while

 

Comment by Ky G on August 5, 2011 at 2:11am

PS Again...Do NOt Touch MY Dog...He is Working. Please stop or i will have to consider it harrassment Should you do this again I will to have to file a complaint. It is within my rights to insist you not distract or touch my dog . Touching or petting a service animal is ILLEGAL.

Next time they say sorry, tell them their apology is not accepted and not to do it again. Say it loud and say it proud~AS THEY ARE APPROACHING _TELL_ them to back away. You are there for a meeting not to have your SD be their play toy.  Yes, you can have friends but choose the ones who respect you and your rights/bounderies. Those that do not are not friends or there to help you in your recovery. You get to choose.

Comment by Ky G on August 5, 2011 at 1:58am

OK, I have apatch that says DO NOT PET in my SD's vest. I have often had folks try and pet my SD, call him thereby distracting him, etc. Whose ever child this was , the parent should have known better than to let it approach a strange dog...any dog, SD or not. My dog happens to love children and when they approach i ask them to do not pet the dog and please move away. I may add "he is working" Should a child yell in my dogs face i would have jumped down that kids throat verablly, or its parents for permitting such an action to any animal. OK, may  not jumped down his throat but i would have loudly stated" Move away from the dog" and asked the parent to tend to its kid. You could also explain that the dog was yelling back and giving him a warning and that it was a good thing for the dog to do because another dog would have bit him.. ANd for all you folks about asking whether her dog is needed to navigate to a meeting...it is none of your business and legally she does not have to answer any of those questions. A service dog is a service dog, no matter the reason and i often find it insulting when people ask what i need him for. It's private. I also hear folks making comets onthe side in judgement (at least in my instances at times) Would i ask if somone took their meds that day or if they had a bowel movement, brushed their teeth,showered or their supposed. status in their community. I was given grief at a meeting and i let them know straight out i dont take bs over it. I have the same rights as anyone else. Service animals do NOT attack people. Barking back is NOT attacking. Many service animals are to alert their owners of threatening behaviours of others...mine does. He is on alert when i say so or command him into position. Irene, stand your ground, know your rights, carry ADA laws with you and do not feel the need to answer questions that are not required by law to be answered. And the best suggestion i can give you is to not allow folks to pet your SD...it is there working for  you. Ask all children to STEP AWAY and LEAVE THE DOG ALONE

 

PS...would a child come and try to play with someones crutches, portable oxygen machine or shove its face or fingers in the wheels of a wheel chair...sounds to me like that child wasnt taught basic boundaries. I have kids and i do not think they should be in meetings. A room on the side if attended or in the community area but  parents of children need to keep an eye on them. As a parent...it takes a lot to relearn how to parent properly when we all get sober. Some get it sooner than others. Pass it on. PS: suggestion...add two more patches. One that says DOG AT WORK and DO NOT PET. A working dog is not to be touched unless YOU permit it. It is against the law by the way to touch a working dog. And you can consider that person behaviour (the childs) harrasment. It is not the dogs fault. Go back to the meeting. It can only futher your learning experience and relationship with your partner. Also, by backing out...you areallowing them to further their ignorance and to pass it on to other disabled. ~peace~Ky G and Bingo

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